Learn from my fail: hiding

Yesterday I wrote about learning from the epic failure that was my marriage.

Today I want to hone in on one particular way I was part of the problem.

Not communicating.

Specifically I didn’t share anything I was learning or the goals I had in life.

For example, I maxed out my 401k for years without talking to my wife about my goal of Financial Independence. I was afraid it would cause conflict and she wouldn’t support. So, I didn’t bring it up at all. I was avoidant. I was a wuss.

That’s not the only thing I hid. I didn’t talk about my spiritual growth or my fitness goals. She knew who I was. But I never really let her know who I was becoming.

By hiding to avoid conflict, I created a rift in the relationship.
Think of Adam and Eve covering themselves with fig leaves to hide their nakedness from each other.

We all know we’re naked under our fig leaves. But your wife should probably know what you look like.

Don’t cover yourself. Share everything.
Are you hiding from your spouse?
Let them see you.


Until Tomorrow
- Daniel Otto Spencer Polehn